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My Pregnancy

Hey! So hopefully you’ve read my post on PCOS & Infertility. If not that post in a nutshell is we wanted to get pregnant and we couldn’t. After having tests done on myself and my husband my OBGYN recommend that we take fertility medicine. She recommended that we start taking a low dose of clomid. The likelihood of it working on our first dose was 25%. with a higher percentage of multiples. Well guys…it worked! On the first try (insert shocked face here).

After struggling to get pregnant my pregnancy was going great! I only had a week or two of morning sickness in the beginning. Fast forward to week 20. My husband is finally able to attend an ultrasound with me to see our baby. For those of you who are thinking wait what! Due to lovely COVID my husband was not allowed to attend any doctor appointments only certain ultrasounds. Talk about not how I saw my pregnancy going.

So week 20 ultrasound is where they are talking pictures of the anatomy of your baby. The tech was counting fingers and toes and everything was looking good. When we were finished she mentions that she wants to schedule another ultrasound to check her kidneys and try to get better pictures of the baby’s heart. At this point we aren’t super concerned but are curious about her kidneys. So I went back for my next ultrasound alone since he wasn’t allowed to attend. The baby’s kidneys are still too dilated for her size and she wasn’t able to get good enough pictures of her heart. Which now means we are going to go for ultrasounds at a perinatal center.

After a few weeks of ultrasounds at the perinatal center her kidneys showed to still be dilated too much her size then fine. The doctors decided that we will just continue to monitor them and she will have an ultrasound once she is born. So yes by this point we now know we are having a GIRL! However after multiple attempts of getting pictures of her heart they were now concerned that she had a small hole in her heart. Cue lots of tears and panic. Nothing was harder than going to multiple checks on your baby alone because of COVID due to complications.

Stay tuned!

-Ally

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Let’s Make Babies!

PCOS & Infertility

Hey there its Ally! So in order to understand my story to motherhood I needed to share my struggles before pregnancy. I found out at a young age that I had Polycystic Ovary Syndrome (PCOS). I was experiencing horrible cramping and irregular periods which lead to going to the OBGYN to get a diagnosis. With that diagnosis came the understanding of infertility issues which at the time wasn’t a huge concern.

Fast forward to my mid 20s where I have met my now husband (Jonathan) and I’m curious as to what infertility for me actually means. The main response I received was “when your ready to get pregnant let me know”. Well I’m a planner and that response wasn’t working for me. We had decided I wasn’t going to take my birth control and we would just give it a go. So after about 3 years of trying and no success I went to my OBGYN and said what is our next steps.

My husband already has a child so clearly its because of me. LADIES! I’m not sure who needs to hear this but just because he already had a child doesn’t mean he could do it again. The amount of guilt and blame I was putting on myself was unreal. Thankfully my OB said lets do a range of tests on BOTH of YOU. Her reasoning was why assume its just because of my issues and treat it. When we can see the whole picture and treat the actual issue. So all of our tests came back normal and no issues. Which was great but why can’t we get pregnant. She ruled it as an unexplained lack of pregnancy which is medical terms for who knows!

Stay Tuned for my pregnancy story!

-Ally

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What Happens In Vegas… Doesn’t Stay in Vegas: Pregnancy Edition

Callie’s Story:

My husband (Chad) and I planned a west coast vacation the summer of 2019 and this was our last big trip before we wanted to start a family. We planned our trip around the national athletic training conference that was in Vegas that summer. So we flew out early and hiked some of our bucket list spots. We had discussed before the trip that if we conceived in Vegas it would be a funny story. We had the moto the entire trip of well we may come home as a family of three (I had known I was going to be ovulating during our vacation) and said screw it (literally) we were going to let fate decide if it would give us life’s biggest blessing. I had been off my birth control for a year already so we were ready to start a family. We had been married for 3 years together for 6 and had just bought a house… so we said well why not ? LOL

Right after 4th of July that summer I had this feeling that I was pregnant. I had different kind of cramps in my hips and I was starting to get really nauseous driving to and from work. I remember sitting in clinic with my coworkers and telling them how I was feeling. They were telling me I was pregnant and I brushed it off saying no way (secretly hoping I was). I went home after work that evening and took a test. OMG it was the longest two minutes of my life waiting for the results. While waiting, I changed into my workout clothes to go walk Gunner and I came back into the bathroom and looked at the test and saw it said pregnant. My hands literally started shaking, heart beating so fast, and I started crying. I composed myself and went downstairs to find Chad. I remember standing at our kitchen island, looked up at him and just slid the pregnancy test across the island. He looked down and said “is this real??” My response as real as it can get ! We both hugged and cried tears of joy and happiness.

Ally was one of the first people I told I was pregnant. We were both so excited and then sad only because we were finally going to be in the same state together and had plans to go to a wine bar (and still have not been to the wine bar) . But really we were excited lol

I was blessed with the worst morning sickness the first trimester. I survived on ginger ale and club crackers which made it so hard to hide being pregnant to my coworkers. I am creature of habit and only drink water and coffee plus I usually eat the same snack and lunch daily. So when I started drinking ginger ale and eating crackers instead of a morning banana and afternoon popcorn… they were on to me. I would then come home from work and sit in the bathroom and sob to Chad telling him “I had a lot of fun making the baby but I am not having any fun anymore” he would then respond saying I look like the character from the Mr. Yuck commercial.

Oh but all the morning sickness was worth it when I saw our precious little one at the 8 week ultrasound. The amount of love you feel as a parent when you see your child for the first time is breath taking. My OB called the 8 week old photo the gummy bear phase and wow that was so true. That’s exactly what Chase looked like. He looked like a gummy bear but Chad and I also pictured him with reptar arms and legs since they were just growing, so we came up with the nickname and called Chase reptar gummy (until we actually picked a name)

My second trimester was very uneventful. I finally felt better and was able to return to my normal self. Its so so so true when they say the 2nd trimester is a breeze.

Now my 3rd trimester… that’s another story and a long one….. so we will save that for another post. Stay tuned 🙂

Until then lesson of this story…. what happens in Vegas… Does not always stay in Vegas…

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Ally and Callie

Hey guys! I’m sure some of you noticed that we are best friends who are miles apart. 630 miles if you want to be exact, but at this point who is counting 🤷🏻‍♀️. I bet your wondering how do we know each other. Callie and I met our freshman year of college when she lived next door. We spent the next 3 years of college as roommates. During those years we were inseparable from not only living together but working together. The only time we spent apart was during classes. I majored in Early Childhood Education while Callie majored in Athletic Training. After graduation I moved to South Carolina.

The adjustment from living together and spending literally almost every moment together was hard. Even though we are so far apart you would never know by listening to our conversations together. We tended to argue like an old married couple👨🏼‍🦳👵🏼. We have stayed close and talk daily. Now of course our time together is limited and now spent in a new way. Where we use to be fun and go out, now we are perfectly happy with walking around Target, Dinner date and dessert. Our conversations that range all hours of the day and night are now spent talking about babies, our husbands and sharing baby pictures.

Why start a blog? Well in those millions of texts we have constantly said to each other ” why didn’t anyone tell us this?” Motherhood is messy, hard and if your like us full of questions. So after asking each other a million questions, sharing funny but gross stories we decided why not start a blog where we can share and communication with other moms. And lets be honest most of the time the only thing keeping me sane is having another mom who can relate and is going through this journey too. Surely we aren’t the only ones feeling like we need a manual for motherhood.

So grab your wine🍷, coffee ☕️ or whatever your drink of choice is and sit back and enjoy the ride. Maybe by the time we are done we will have written this so needed manual for motherhood. Wait! Who are we kidding just when you think you have motherhood figured out your child hits a new milestone and you’re back at square one.